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Anxiety
"Like the word sin, the letter i is located in the middle of the word anxiety. Both anxiety and sin have an I problem" — Lionel Hartley, Great Ideas Journal, Salubrity™ Seminars, 1998 (Selected by Mrs Perry.) | |
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Argument / Disagreement / Conflict
"An argument is the longest distance between two points of view." — Lionel Hartley, Moral Responsibility, Stereo Publications, Christchurch, 1966, p37 |
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Attitude
"'Hardening of the Attitude' ages people quicker than 'Hardening of the Arteries'." — Lionel Hartley, Attitudes to Ageing (Seminar), Salubrity™ Seminars, 1996 (Selected by R Times.) |
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Attitudes
"Attitudes are contageous, is your's worth catching?" — Lionel Hartley, Attitudes to Ageing (Seminar), Salubrity™ Seminars, 1996 |
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Beatitude of Gratitude
"The beatitude of gratitude is an attitude. Gratitude consists of more than the commonplace, hence gratitude is no platitude. Gratitude seeks all strata of society and therefore is no platitude in servitude. Gratitude is a deliberate act of precision, an exactitude in giving. Gratitude builds relationships to prevent solitude. In summary then, The primary beatitude is an attitude of gratitude which is no platitude in servitude, but an exactitude which prevents solitude." — Lionel Hartley, The Beatitudes, St Michael and All Angels, 1967, p29 (Selected by E Cuthbertson.) |
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Chocolate
"Wel, ek verklaar, die teenoorgestelde van sjokolade-laat is natuurlik nie-sjokolade-vroeg (early)" (Well, I do declare, the opposite of choco-late is, naturally, non-chocol-early.)" — Lionel Hartley, Rhodes Huis (n verhaal), SA Press, Johannesburg, 1977, p89 |
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Christianity / Hope
"Life with Christ is an endless hope, Life without Christ has a hopeless end." — Lionel Hartley, Joyful Hope, L&R Hartley, 2005 (Selected by J.Wright.) |
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Coincidence
"Coincidence is when God chooses to remain anonymous. There are times that He sends events, things or people to remind us of his watch-care." — Lionel Hartley, Eldritch Happenstance: Coincidence Through Supernatural Intervention, L&R Hartley, 2005 |
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Coincidence
"When coincidences happen, when the unexplainable occurs, when a chain of circumstances astonishes us, may we look to recognise God's handiwork and providence and give Him our grateful praise and thanks." — Lionel Hartley, Eldritch Happenstance: Coincidence Through Supernatural Intervention, L&R Hartley, 2005 (Selected by Edwin Goldsworthy.) |
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Communication / Listening /Marriage
"God gave us two ears for active listening, two eyes for sharing a tear, two shoulders for comforting, two arms for loving, but only one mouth." — Lionel Hartley, God's Design for Husbands (Seminar), Salubrity™ Seminars, 1979 |
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Conversion
"Deciding to live for Christ is like boarding a train as our destination is certain yet we still have to decide which carriage to enter and onto which seat to sit." — Lionel Hartley, The Beatitudes, St Michael and All Angels, 1967 (Selected by E Cuthbertson.) |
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Depression / Sadness
"When you're feeling down in the mouth, remember Jonah — He came out all right." — Lionel Hartley, The Gospel According to Jonah, Stereo Publications (Christchurch), 1965 |
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Education
"If you think education is expensive, try ignorance." — Lionel Hartley, Building Self Esteem and Confidence, Philadelphia Publications, 1989 |
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Family planning / Love / Marriage / Relationships
"Family planning is not just about contraception; it is both choosing the right person before the wedding day and then (more importantly) being the right person afterwards." — Lionel Hartley, The Nuclear Family (Seminar), Christchurch Public Hospital, 1973 |
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Fasting
"A day of ... Christian piety doesn't make up for a week of Christian neglect." — Lionel Hartley, Fasting - A Biblical View, L&R Hartley, 1998 (Selected by Errol Gordon.) |
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Forgiveness
"Doing someone an injury puts you below your enemy; revenging your enemy makes you an equal with him; forgiving your enemy sets your character above his." — Lionel Hartley, The Blessings of Ephesians, Philadelphia Publications, 2005, p7 |
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Forgiveness
"Forgiveness is not something you feel, it is something you do. It is letting go of the rope of retribution." — Lionel Hartley, Building a Better Marriage Seminar (Transcript p77) (Selected by J Miller.) |
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Giving / Philanthropy / Donating / Offering
"What," you say, "Give again? Only last week I gave and you expect me to keep on giving? How long you expect me to keep on giving and giving? Until I have nothing left to give?" "Oh no, dear friend, only until God stops giving to you." — Lionel Hartley, Invited to Give: A Compendium of Offertory Sentences and Illustrations, L&R Hartley, 1967 (Selected by E C.) |
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Gratitude
"Gratitude is a seasoning for all seasons." — Lionel Hartley, The Art of Thanks-Living, L&R Hartley, 2021 p35 |
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Gratitude
"Gratitude at the table will turn the humblest meal into a banquet and the most modest abode into a mansion. Gratitude will not only acknowledge God as the source of all things, it will demonstrate an appreciative heart toward all who contributed to the preparation and presentation of the meal." — Lionel Hartley, An Anthology of Graces, L&R Hartley, 1969 (This quote from the Preface to the Second Edition, 1984) |
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Gratitude
"Gratitude is seeing a sunset and thanking the Artist" — Lionel Hartley, The Art of Thanks-Living, L&R Hartley, 2021 p25 (Selected by Harold Jones (Jnr).) |
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Grief / Bereavement
"Getting through - not getting over... "Grief is not a fence that we climb over hoping the other side is greener; it is a winding tunnel that we enter, with all its associated darkness, gloom and uncertainty and our grief work is to journey forward until we see a glimmer of light at the other end; and then bravely move onward into the sunshine of a very different landscape" — Lionel Hartley, Children and Grief (Seminar), Salubrity™ Seminars 1997 |
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Guilt
"You cannot persuade a person to conversion by instilling a feeling of guilt. No one ever made a permanent commitment based on guilt. If all it took to be saved was feeling guilty, then everyone would be saved, for we have all experienced guilt at one time or another. No, salvation comes through gratitude, recognising and acknowledging the sacrifice that was paid by Christ to take away not only the guilt, but the sin which caused it." — Lionel Hartley, The Beatitudes, St Michael and All Angels, 1967 (Selected by E Cuthbertson.) |
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Ideas
"Ideas, like sunsets, are brilliant flashes of colour which, unless photographed are lost forever excepting as some grey shadowy recall in the recesses of our memory." — Lionel Hartley, Great Ideas Journal, Salubrity™ Seminars, 1998 (Selected by Mrs Perry.) | |
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Independence
"Interdependence is to be valued higher than independence." — Lionel Hartley, The Gospel According to Jonah, Stereo Publications (Christchurch), 1965 |
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Intimacy / Relationships
"Budgetting for a molehill of quality time instead of a mountain of quantity time is actually avoiding real intimacy. By allowing plenty of one-to-one quantity time you will find quality springing up spontaneously." — Lionel Hartley, Thank God For Sex, Stereo Publications, Christchurch, 1976 (Selected by Wendy Rose.) | |
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Intimacy / Relationships
"Men, be prepared to put your arms into her sink before you expect her to sink into your arms. (If you think dishwashing is women's work, read Mark 7:1-8 which talks about men doing the washing-up and 2 Kings 21:13 which talks about men drying the dishes.)" — Lionel Hartley, Thank God For Sex, Stereo Publications, Christchurch, 1976 (Selected by Wendy Rose.) | |
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Journalling
"By journalling our ideas and thoughts, the cognitive content is preserved, not to freeze it in time, but to use it to secure the base of a springboard for the fostering of still more ideas." — Lionel Hartley, Great Ideas Journal, Salubrity™ Seminars, 1998 (Selected by Mrs Perry.) | |
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Joy
"A sorrow shared is half the sorrow, while a joy shared is twice the joy." — Lionel Hartley, The Art of Thanks-Living, L&R Hartley, 2021 p33 (Selected by J Miller.) |
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Kiss / Kissing
"A kiss is nature’s way of getting two people so close together they cannot see each other’s faults." — Lionel Hartley, Biblical Philematology, (Kissing in the Bible), L&R Hartley, 2005 |
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Knowledge / Education / Learning
"... And his brain food was an actual intellectual effectual factual victual" — Lionel Hartley, Moral Responsibility, Stereo Publications, Christchurch, 1966, p6 |
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Listening / Communication
"God gave us two ears for active listening, two eyes for sharing a tear, two shoulders for comforting, two arms for loving, but only one mouth. So we should listen twice as much as we talk!" — Lionel Hartley, Building a Better Marriage Seminar (Transcript p68) (Selected by J Miller.) |
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Love / Marriage / Relationships
"When your spouse’s failings get you down, remember this: your partner has to put up with all of your faults too! A good marriage isn’t necessarily a perfect one. It’s a partnership in which both sides must be willing to give and take, to ask forgiveness and to forgive." — Lionel Hartley, Building a Better Marriage Seminar (Transcript p29) (Selected by J Miller.) |
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Love / Marriage / Relationships
"Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them. If you do, they may break your heart, but if you don't, you may break theirs." — Lionel Hartley, Communication in Courtship & Marriage, Helicon Publishing, 1981 |
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Love / Marriage / Relationships
"Mature love is the best aphrodisiac." — Lionel Hartley, Created Sexual, Amangelia Publishing, 1996 |
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Love / Marriage / Relationships
"Budgetting for a molehill of quality time instead of a mountain of quantity time is actually avoiding real intimacy. By allowing plenty of one-to-one quantity time you will find quality springing up spontaneously." — Lionel Hartley, Created Sexual, Amangelia Publishing, 1996 |
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Lovemaking
"How to Make Love to a Woman — The amazing three step process: 1. Lovingly ask her what she wants 2. Lovingly listen while she answers, and 3. Lovingly do what she asks. (By grammatical gender change this can equally apply to a woman making love to a man.)" — Lionel Hartley, Thank God For Sex, Stereo Publications, Christchurch, 1976 | |
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Lying / Dishonesty
"Hy het homself nie as 'n leuenaar beskou nie — meer waarskynlik sou hy aan homself dink as 'n 'fiktiewe vervaardiger'" (He did not regard himself as a liar — more likely he would think of himself as a 'fictional fabricator')" — Lionel Hartley, Rhodes Huis (n verhaal), SA Press, Johannesburg, 1977, p137 |
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Marriage / Relationships / Friendship / Love /
"A description of the friendship that should be the goal of every married couple: I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you, not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out. I love you for putting your hand into my heaped-up heart and passing over all the frivolous and weak things that you can’t help seeing there, and drawing out into the light all the beautiful, radiant things that no one else has looked deep enough to find.." — Lionel Hartley, Building a Better Marriage Seminar (Transcript p53) (Selected by J Miller.) |
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Marriage / Relationships
"Marriage is not a word, it's a sentence — not a 'jail sentence' — but a joyous relationship encompassing entire lexicons." — Lionel Hartley, Created Sexual, Amangelia Publishing, 1996 |
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Marriage / Relationships
"The key to fulfillment in marriage consists of always speaking the truth in love, continually demonstrating affection to each other, purposefully fulfilling one another sexually and encouraging - allowing and helping each other grow to each's full potential as the Creator designed for your marriage." — Lionel Hartley, Lionel's Listening-Post, One-Jump-Ahead magazine, 1987 |
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Marriage / Relationships
"The key to a successful marriage [is] ... honest open communication about functions, fellowship, family, friends, finance, friction, faith and the future." — Lionel Hartley, Lionel's Listening-Post, Australian Singles Magazine, 1986 |
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Money, Possessions
"Money can't buy the best things in life. It can never buy love, peace, respect, health, happiness, time, integrity, confidence, loyalty, gratitude, self-esteem, joy, common sense, serenity, character, reputation, trust, beauty, restful sleep, manners, kindness, purpose in life, wisdom or good intentions." — Lionel Hartley, The Art of Thanks-Living, L&R Hartley, 2021 p20 |
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Old Age
"Old age is when you stop thinking young." — Lionel Hartley, Ageing Gracefully, L&R Hartley, 2016 |
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Parenting / Advice
"When a parent decides to give his or her son or daughter some advice it is the parent that learns the most." — Lionel Hartley, Thoughts for Mother's Day, Hagley Press, Christchurch, 1966 | |
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Philematology / Kiss / Kissing
"Philematology is the science of kissing and there are as many types of kisses as there are osculators (kissers)." — Lionel Hartley, Biblical Philematology, (Kissing in the Bible), L&R Hartley, 2005 |
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Presence of God / Church
"If you don't go to visit God in His house, why should He bother to visit you at yours?" — Lionel Hartley, Moral Responsibility, Stereo Publications, Christchurch, 1966, p43 |
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Problems
"The only problem that is too big for God is the one that we withhold from Him." — Lionel Hartley, FreEzine Magazine Supplement, 1990 |
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Prophecy / Fortune-telling
"When WE make predictions, the only safe prediction we can make is that our prediction may be wrong." — Lionel Hartley, What is a Prophet?, Red Range Radio, 1999 |
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Reason / Logic
"Enigiemand wat argumenteer dat ons nie rede nodig het nie, moet probeerom dit te wys sonder om rede te gebrutK" (Anyone who argues that we don't need reason should try to show it without using reason.)" — Lionel Hartley, Rhodes Huis (n verhaal), SA Press, Johannesburg, 1977 |
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Romance / Love / Marriage / Relationships
"Love in the heart is a pacesetter It sets the rhythm of daily life; Romance in the heart is a pacemaker It re-energises the relationship especially if the rhythm is out of step." — Lionel Hartley, Moral Responsibility, Stereo Publications, Christchurch, 1966, p27 |
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Sacrifice / Commitment / Giving / Philanthropy / Donating / Offering
"There is a parable about a pig and a chicken that were discussing the needs of homeless people and the chicken, worried that she might be asked to contribute to chicken soup, suggested giving the homeless people bacon and eggs for breakfast. The pig replied that for the chicken it would be just an interested contribution but for the pig it would be total commitment." — Lionel Hartley, Invited to Give: A Compendium of Offertory Sentences and Illustrations, L&R Hartley, 1967 |
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Sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise
"Many years ago I worked for a company with the menial task of tying parcels for posting. Each parcel was sealed with a strip of adhesive tape. The purpose of the tape was to stop the parcel from falling apart. When we are sealed with that Holy Spirit of promise, it helps to prevent us from falling apart!" — Lionel Hartley, The Blessings of Ephesians, Philadelphia Publications, 1989, p7 (2005, p20) |
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Self suffiency
"A self-made man has a fool for a maker" — Lionel Hartley, The Art of Thanks-Living, L&R Hartley, 2021 p30 |
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Sexuality / Lovemaking
"Communicating our needs to our spouse is of vital importance when it comes to sexual expression. Women will usually seek the sensual rather than the sexual. As a general rule, women need sensual romance whereas a man needs sexual responsiveness, women need sensual reassurance whereas a man needs sexual release. We all have differing needs and it is unrealistic to expect our partner to be a mind-reader." — Lionel Hartley, Thank God For Sex, Stereo Publications, Christchurch, 1976 | |
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Singleness / spinster / Bachelor / widow / widower
"Don't let your relationship status prevent you from achieving your full potential." — Lionel Hartley, Single and Blessed (Seminar), Salubrity™ Seminars, 2001 | |
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Success / Achievement
"Man is honoured for what he has achieved not what he has received." — Lionel Hartley, Moral Responsibility, Stereo Publications, Christchurch, 1966, p19 |
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Success / Crying
"If at first you don't succeed, don't cry. It is no use going in optimistically and coming out misty-optically." — Lionel Hartley, Deliverance from Deadly Depression, Dayspring Health Services, 1986, p7 |
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Understanding / Knowledge / Learning
"It is better to understand a little than to misunderstand a lot" — Lionel Hartley, How do I know God's will for my life?, Dayspring Health Services, 1985 |
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